First off, I just want to let everyone know that I’m not gonna number this out because I don’t even know how many steps or tips or rules there are in surviving long distance relationships. Second, I do not claim to know that every single thing I write down here is foolproof and it will ensure a 100% chance of making you survive your own LDR. I’m simply writing down my thoughts considering I’m also sometimes curious as to how me and Robert have made it this far. Yup, long distance for 2 years now and we’ve been dating for almost 4 years now, too. It hasn’t been the easiest thing in the world. To put it simply, I don’t think people should choose or even want to be in long distance relationships. Avoid it if you can (cause this shit is no joke). It’s not just twice the effort, or twice the understanding and patience and etc. It’s 5, 6, 10, 100 times more than everything else you’re used to doing when you’re in a relationship with someone that’s physically close to you. It’s just too much, to be honest.
BUT ANYWAYS, I’m not here to discourage anyone, I just want others to understand what they’re getting in to, or give others an idea of how it usually is when you’re far apart from your significant other. So again, I don’t have a specific number of tips here. I’m just writing along as I realise some things and well, I hope it helps anyone who needs it. So let me start with this: 1. Patience
2. Understanding
3. Forgiveness
4. Learn how to say “I’m Sorry”
5. Push each other to do/work/be/study/learn/talk/grow better
6. Do/work/be/study/learn/talk/and grow better for yourself as well
7. Plan
8. Have a final plan
So that’s it. That’s all my mind can come up with at 2am. There’s way more to surviving long distance relationships but they all basically sum up to these 8 things right here. There’s also the matter of external help like friends and family but that might just be for another blog entry (depends on whether I feel like it or not because that’s going to be another long entry). So love and enjoy the distance that you have instead of complaining about it more than you appreciate it because the more you complain, the more it causes disdain. And stress and pity-partying and just everything else that could break a perfectly good relationship. Be more appreciative and and forgiving and everything will be alright!
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