It always feels nice knowing you’re in a priority list. Whether you’ve got a VIP number for a queue or you know your reservation has been put at the top of the list, it feels nice knowing that you’re important for something. Same goes for people, it feels nice knowing that you’re probably included in the many things that they work on headfirst in life.
It’s not always going to be good, though. While you maintain your importance in someone’s life, you also start feeling the weight of the other important things that are surrounding him and even if you tell yourself not to, you can’t help but number all these priorities in your head. Sometimes you feel like you’re one-up over his sport or probably two notches below his education. Wherever you put yourself on this invisible ranking, you as a priority, will - still - be adjusted as days burn down. The longer you are with someone, you either climb to the top of the list, slide back down, stay comfortable in the middle or put yourself in a stagnant position from where you first started. Inevitable enough, green monsters are going to pop out here and there when you think that something’s being given more importance than what you’re demanding or needing right at a certain moment. Of course, most times you have no choice but to understand but sometimes, people can be dumb with their petty reasons. It’s hard when people think they’re sacrificing for you because they’re adjusting their priorities to put you on top for a little bit. But then, do they really adjust because they’re sacrificing other priorities when the situation demands it? Or are they shifting priorities just because it’s comfortable for them (AKA I’ve made sure nothing else on my list could get hurt so I think it’s okay to put you first for a little bit now)? You’ll start feeling the sting most especially when you know he’s sacrificed you as priority to put other things first and you end up asking: Why does he feel like he’s sacrificing to put me first sometimes when I’ve never seen his other priorities get hurt just because he put me first? Now, logically, it’s because other things have no say in it and they can’t afford to get hurt. There will be nothing to adjust or understand because non-human priorities have deadlines to meet and sometimes they just can't be swayed down even for just a little while - unless you sacrifice. Like for example:
But on the other hand, what if you were the one to be sacrificed? Or adjusted out of comfort?:
Now in this case, humans can obviously afford to get hurt, even if the situation seems like you don’t have a choice but in the end you can either choose to stay butthurt or be “understanding” (but trust me when I say - people can only ever understand SO MUCH of you adjusting them as priority in your life). So be wary and know your worth. Don’t settle on people who keep sacrificing you as a priority for other things but put you on the top of their priority ONLY when it’s comfortable for them. The last priority slot sucks so don’t fall into that pit.
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Shy
10/10/2016 09:22:20 pm
Spot on! You deserve someone better. And believe me you will find your true soulmate, you dont even have to look it will come knocking.
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